Eeeeenteresting... the forum is still there, and active, even, but I don't see a way to get to it from the main page.
I have sent out dozens of messages; mostly short, somehow relating to what they present of themselves, and asking a question or two to try to stir up more conversation. I've gotten a few responses; fewer than half, which is disappointing, but I understand that women (especially attractive) tend to get dozens to hundreds of messages.
I did manage to arrange a date, and met her at a restaurant. We had a nice time talking, I bought dinner, we ended up taking a short walk afterwards. Irony rears its ugly head here: There's an inverse relationship between how attracted I am to someone and how easily I talk to them. People in whom I had no interest accused me of flirting, or gave me their number without my asking. People I really like end up ratcheting the pressure of talking to them so I forget how to word and dumb things do.
This one was, I felt, a success. I thought we had prospects, but because I wasn't projecting or building things up in my head, and she wasn't intimidatingly awesome, I had an easier time relaxing. I wrote her later to say I had a good time, after a few days she wrote to say she didn't think we had romantic prospects. But we both had a good time, I was definitely more relaxed than the last time I tried to "date", so like I said: I count it as a success.
PartnerQuest 2013 continues. One of the people I messaged a few weeks ago said she's back in the country and interested in getting together for coffee. A few others (really, OKC? You're suggesting a 56% match?) have turned into pen pals. Other things to do: See how much anxiety I can resolve, answer more questions (and get more picky about answering my questions; I theoretically can date someone who never reads, but I should say no because it's not my ideal partner), creative visualization so I get more in-synch with the idea of being with a partner, talk to married friends about their relationships, let people know they should introduce me to their friends.
How's your OKCupid experience? How are you using it?